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Hey I justs got this email from my friend and I am not sure how to respond:

“God give me strength. I was at a meeting when K brought home her  report card Thursday It was BAD, like 30% Bad. DH (step-Dad)told  her she apparently had too many distractions (said with sense, not anger) so she was asked to remove her TV/DVD/CD combo player from her room. She said no and told him she didnt have too since other people bought it for her. He again asked her to do as she was told. (I know
you know where this is going…) K yells, “You are not my father, you can’t tell me what to do.” DH then goes OFF, using less than appropriate language about how he has earned the right to parent her and is tired of her self centred attitude. She says she’s leaving and calls my ex-husband. DH tells her she needs to leave if she isn’t going to respect the way our family works. She is there now. Generally we are on a discuss first, act second rhythm. He is also the calm to my emotional way, hates cursing. For him to go off I know she must have been pretty nasty, but he doesn’t want to repeat some things. He is feeling pretty down about his behaviour. KIera on the otherhand is feeling pretty smug about it and doesn’t feel that need to apologise for being hurtful.

She calls last night and says she not ready to come home or ready to apologise and I told her she wasn’t welcome here until she is ready to be part of the family, and take responsibilty for her school work and ready to share a true apology that goes toward re-building a relationship with both DH & I. I told her I can’t have her here if her purpose it going to be playing both her Dad & step-Dad off against me. She said ok and that was it. This is where it stands. I thought I would be a mess if it ever came to this. But really, I’m happy…I think. I don’t like that it had to come to this but my Mommy gut is telling me perhaps seeing this follow through and not chasing ehr down will help her to realise it’s not ALL about her. I’d rather it happen now and have her come back on the right terms and in the right state of mind. We are also switching her to a uniformed school. I love a good uniform! Especially since she has been pushing the inappropriate attire…she tried to leave the house in a kilt & tank top in Thursdays ice storm. This is after numerous warnings. With a DD chest she shouldn’t wear tank tops even in summer unless they are well layered.

AAAAAAAAAAAGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

What do I do”