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Our boy sometimes calls me ‘silly‘ which I see as a type of name calling which needs to be dealt with.

I find it important to address why something is being said straight away. I’m more
worried about why my little boy feels the need to call anyone silly and what he’s learning about himself - I am sad he feels the need to demean anyone and I want to get to the bottom of where it’s come from!

Anyway, when my boy says this, I ask him to please do not call me silly because it makes me feel sad and that I love him very much and want to help if he could please tell me what is wrong in other words.

Strangely enough, he often responds with ‘sorry mum, I love you‘ or something like that. But if he persists, I’ll say it again - that I don’t really like it when he calls me silly, that I love him so much and could he please say what he needs in different words. Then if it’s going on, I’ll suggest we do something else, something he likes like read a book. Things always end up turning positive then.
I don’t send him away - I don’t think that would help at all. It feels like attention seeking behaviour sometimes, so I try to give my child some attention. I say it
makes me feel sad when he calls me a name, and I  love you a lot and i’d really appreciate it if he could use other words that don’t hurt my feelings and if hr doesn’t respond as I’d like then I’ll say ‘how about we talk about something else?’ or ‘how about we do something else now?’ I give the child some attention and do something he/she likes and the child  feels like I’m on his/her side.

I find reminding my son that I love him when things are negative often helps. The offer of unconditional love regardless of the situation seems to be reassuring to him. The only thing about this is that I only say it when I really mean and feel it because children see
through false expressions of love.